In mid of 2019, my daughter was 2 month old when I decided to apply to an online distance learning program. (Best decision ever considering the fact that the entire world is into this distance learning thing now)
Life revolved around dirty diapers, baby bottles, burping and getting enough sleep to start a new day with the same routine.
But I anxiously was waiting to start my online degree. I needed some place to grow. A place to learn. Despite caring for a small infact I needed a place where I would occupy my mind othan than worrying about when to change her diaper again.
It was super tough and taught me how difficult managing studies are even if they are online with a toddler! Everything is a race! Just do it hurrily before the baby wakes up!
Its selfish now to spend time on yourself. That ship has sailed. If you can manage it okay otherwise its no good.
That realisation is scary. The idea that you cannot grow anymore as a person without putting a tiny baby at risk but somehow I did it while being a good mom as well.
Time was always less.
And there was no such thing as exam preparation.
I had a total of one or two hours to do my work. In a day. No matter what that is the only time limit available. Not matter what it is.
Otherwise my day is gone and the work is left undone. Because obviously a baby doesn’t know that my mom has an assignment so I should sleep more today. The needs and necessaities will remain the same.
At the same time it taught me discipline and the value of time. If you are a super busy mom and are doing a side activity, wasting time will make you loose both.
Professional life is really different from student life. But if you are determined enough you might end up doing both. And professional life doesn’t allow you to give yourself a break when student life becomes demanding, it is you and you alone who has to show flexibility.
Taking baby steps while managing can be hectic but it will pay off one day.