I don’t remember a single time when I have heard a man say to another man that unlike you I don’t do this, I am a much better father, son or husband than you.
In fact, the opposite happens men laugh at other men who listen to their wives claiming they are their wives’s slaves and wives being controlling or aggressive is considered offensive.
Women on the other hand, regularly compete with each other over who is a better mother, sister or daughter. Moms compete with each other and give each other salty replies like “unlike you, I don’t give my child this kind of food.” or “My children don’t go to that average school or my children don’t wear those kinds of clothes.” Their way or showing that the clothes, eating habits or schooling of their kids is far superior than the others.
Apart from children, women compete with each other on looks and style, apart from that they also compete with each other on a lot of things. I fail to recognize why there is a need to compete? Why do women so strongly believe that they just HAVE to let the other woman down to feel good about themselves? This leads to the following saying “Aurat hi aurat ki dushman hoti hai.” (A woman is a woman’s biggest enemy) true, although it is obviously common for both genders to have differences, misunderstandings and conflicts with other women but more than often, women are having more conflicts with women than men have with other men and due to this reason, a lot of people especially men take unnecessary benefit of such conflicts or indifferences.
What do women gain from making each other feel bad about themselves? There is always going to somebody better than us because that’s how it is. Beauty doesn’t end on one person, there might be somebody more beautiful. One more thing is beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. A person who may appear to be ugly to you is maybe beyond beautiful in the eyes of another person. You may criticise a woman for how she dresses but maybe there are plenty of people who like her style and even admire it!
The competition for who is a better wife or who is a better mom seems the most dumbest of all.
For a child his or her mom will always be the most. No matter what mistakes a mother makes, her children love her and her approval and her love is the most important thing for them. Children crave for their moms. But despite everything women fight with women and there is a big audience who enjoys that.
I have never seen men fighting each other over who is a better man, father or son.
No man has ever said to another man, “I earn way more than you do, it’s because I am a better man who cares for my family.” I probably never will, they feel no need to compete with each other and no one compares them with other men. Like men, women should support other women and build each other down instead of downgrading others.